somewhere in my mind , I thought why people judge me and also why i judge them . one thing clicked instantly that we are in our comfort zone and we as a human generally look for that comfort everywhere so whoever doesn't matched our comfort, we tend to deny that . it can be a place , person , thing, experience or sometimes ourselves.

the answer to why

1. experiences - a bitter past experience automate our mind to negate the things attached to it .for example if i was bullied for my looks , height weight , place , by a person or group of person who looked like a certain way and in adulthood sometimes , these engraved bad experience make me judge myself over these things or make me extra conscious about the same .It also automatically keep myself away from person who look like "bullies" . this way we start judging ourselves and other.

past is something we cannot change but we definitely can work on our presents by first not judging ourselves and then others by just putting little effort. just say "it's okay , I think it is different from what I expected or it may be different from what I have experienced, lets think other way ". this little mind chatting can help up get through this .

2 environment- upbringing , from where we come , our culture, geography all plays important role.

a person who always lived in mountains and among rivers generally think of weekend chilling in a pool or partying and a person grew up having urban surrounding , big buildings , parks, if ask for a natural escape it should not be come as a shocker in either cases. It is the place , our culture which creates our comfort zone .

our traditional wear , festivals , traditional food, spices , monuments , yoga .all these things fascinates foreigners and we indirectly judge ourselves of being inferior than developed countries or judge them for being excited about basic things . what is basic for us is uplifting for them .

3. family , surrounding - different family backgrounds , peer group , financial status , mental status, spiritual status determine what we think of ourselves and others . this affects our confidence, living style , develops our thinking and plays role in self esteem, decision making, speaking and judging skills. yes I called it a skill because it is..

people judge on the basis of cloths, money, speaking style , fluency in certain language, caste, class, work and this list goes on and we also judge ourselves on the same . subconsciously a hierarchy is being created in society in which those who are different will get judged .

4 because it is EASY to judge ourselves and others. it doesnot require much effort to judge someone

we can easily say , look at this person , what she is wearing, oh my god! this people are so dirty , oh! how come he own a big house , he is just a street food vendor , this is so low class , she speaks English like a old scooter, why this person greet with namaste when everyone greet with good morning .

this WHY , is so easy to say that we forget to acknowledge diversity in our mind,

this way if we don't fit in some situation we judge ourselves and we do same with others. we don't accept failures or if someone is trying to do a thing differently , we are so afraid to accept change or to see out of our comfort zone that we abruptly say it .

instead of looking outside sitting in our comforting place, it we start looking for diverse information about various people, place, food, cultures, countries, economies, dresses, festivals etc . we will start knowing different things , and may be we can acknowledge things that we haven't seen or experienced. Knowledge comes with wisdom and it help in developing our accepting nature .

ONCE WE START ACCEPTING , WE SLOWLY STOP JUDGING .